“You’re smarter than you look.” said the white male executive.
“I’m 40, fat and female… where are you going with that?”
On one side is the individual who has maintained a corporate network at peak performance for seven years, on the other side a fatuous man tasked far above his actual abilities noting to his surprise that the female IT job-holder was qualified. The presumption of male supremacy is held by the easily swayed, by the non-analytical.
The #MeToo movement is not about the individuals, it is about the WAVE of individuals who detail how the male agenda has interfered with their feminine privacy, their effort-based primacy, everything personal and worthy in them. It’s the “boys club” mentality that makes even the reluctant-disrespectful finally have an inkling of the pressure females endure simply by birth-right. It makes the pervasive wage-skimming and sexual violence against women not only the fault of the overly aggressive men but of the passive ones, too. Those men who sit in meetings and let the dominant males steer them to unfair procedures and disrespectful policies need to speak out. You need a long-range perspective and then you realize you utilize all your strengths as the Earth holders, no matter who created this big beautiful planet, we have the power to destroy it. To have peace on the planet we need equity among its people.
This isn’t a new item on the agenda. Women have pushed ahead slowly and relentlessly, gaining rights and duties formerly reserved for [white] men. There are all kinds of markers so we can thrust forward, competitive in our own minds, whether barred by age, gender, race, appearance, education, nationality.
Don’t kid yourself. This is a problem for ALL people, not only known male supremacists. Race and gender, birthrights assigned by genetics? Is gender binary or analog, meaning yes-no or in degrees? By place and time of birth? It is a testament to the force of habit that we’ve lived so long placing entire categories of humans in the supplicant position. Same-so the random natural assets in a territory, we experience the genetic lottery when we are conceived that sets the scenario from the continent upon which the conception occurred to the location of the birth. The most intelligent of us see the possibility in each of us which is the foundation for progress. Dismiss the opinions of categorizers: Whites do… blacks won’t… men can… women shouldn’t. Each of us moves outward from the “I” position we were born into, remember that. Each of us has to balance the long-practiced quick-categorization of a person by their roots and look closer, think harder, and wise up. Talent isn’t gender-dependent, neither is wiliness or artifice or humility.
Be thankful for some degree of “wokefulness” as we work forward, technology erases some but not all of the gender-race alliances (so many whitish guys at the head of the line). We have some mixing at the entry levels and even middle management but statistically few powerful positions are held by non-white, non-male people. (Note the ones that are are being outed as poor leaders if not outright embezzlers.) Oh, my… work those factors into your presumptions.
The fact is no crime is committed by a type, it is always committed by a person who may be of that type but just as well may not be, or may partially be. We’ve got to fight ingrained bias and self-fulfilling interpretations of behavior. Once we get things sorted it turns out there’s always a story to be told, from somebody we might have earlier dismissed on superficial characteristics, and missed the steely art of their personal nature lending credence.