Sexuality is connected to various controller systems, pumps and valves, cognitive pathways & social constructs, so that we find it hard to trust our first stabs at “getting connected” with somebody. The thing people learn is that time and experience count so that few beginners are expected to make memorable love.
Like any endeavor, there is effort (persistence) motivated by the reward of success, experiencing pleasure of a sensual ethereal realm deeply buried like treasure. The contrasting goals and methods of mixing genders was carved into us.
- The genders provide dovetailed parts, physically and psychically, compounded by social roles and local cultural opinion so of course there’s a lot to learn and experience in the world. Do yourself (and the rest of us) a favor and open your mind to the bigger picture, grant grace beyond your own limited sampling. Learn to expand your ideas, which can open your opportunities.
Understand this word: glans because it underscores the fundamental design purpose inherent in biology.
- The vascular body which forms the apex of the penis.
- The vascular body which forms the extremity of the clitoris.
Those minor tissue rearrangements are not worthy of gender wars, we are so much more complicated than that. In your most intimate relationships you have to accept the skills of your partner. Enrich your ideas about intimacy so that you enjoy-exploit Nature’s rollercoaster. Together, find a strategy that allows for fantasy within each of you. Not all research is done in the actual world.
Reading is the safest way to expand your thoughts, bringing knowledge into play for your brain-body to adjust to new ideas. It is a big world with many people, sampling situations is a smart strategy. Running wild exchanging unexamined genetic material is not a good idea for those who hope to have a good life. You need to be smarter and kinder about your intimate exchanges to avoid the risk of unplanned offspring or life-altering disease. It is possible to direct yearnings and channel feelings but it takes a bit of planning. The emotional rising of desire is like steam and, remember, steam can drive a train!
Input from other sources has differents impact which is why I’m talking about reading here, not seeing images or hearing sounds. You supply the imagery when you read, guided by your own cognitive vocabulary. Without further context the word “red” could be rose red or blood red, you wouldn’t have to conjure it up because it is information which would be pre-sorted visually.